Who pays for bridesmaids dresses is one of the many tricky questions when the topic of wedding day costs comes up.
“Is it okay to ask my friends to pay for their bridesmaids dresses? I feel bad because I’m worried they can’t afford it but we’re on a pretty tight budget too. How should I approach the subject?”
It’s tradition that bridesmaids dresses are paid for by your chosen bridesmaids. But who pays for bridesmaids dresses is more of a dilemma when brides can be uber generous to their tribe. Buy hey, anything goes nowadays – they might even be prepared for this situation.
It’s really important to you talk to all your bridesmaids as soon as you can. Meet up for a girlie afternoon tea or a wedding planning session over a glass of prosecco. Get the conversation about the issue of who pays for bridesmaids dresses over and done with so you can stop worrying. Plus, this will mean that if they need to save up, they have the maximum amount of time to do so before the big day.
Be ready with options when discussing who pays for bridesmaids dresses
If their reaction to buying their own bridesmaids dresses isn’t great have some budget options up your sleeve. One of the options could be hiring frocks. Or show them you can compromise. You could agree ‘guidelines’ for them to use to find their own dresses e.g. style, length, or colour. They’ll be able to choose something within their respective budgets from a store they like. Plus their choice will tie in with any themes you have planned.
The high street has so much more to offer nowadays when it comes to dresses for very special occasions. So when thinking about who pays for bridesmaids dresses try Coast, Hobbs, Lipsy, Monsoon, Ted Baker or Phase Eight all of which have great options that won’t stretch the purse strings too far – and they could be worn for other occasions afterwards too.
Think about the great options on sites such as ASOS, Boohoo, Pretty Little Thing, or Net-a-Porter where you can often bag a bargain that could fit the bill. It might even mean having something other than the ordinary bridesmaids dresses, which could be an even better option.
If they are true friends they will understand; but the sooner you have that chat, the better.
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